Building Relationships with Coaches: Where to Start and What Matters
This blog breaks down the often-intimidating process of building relationships with college dance coaches into simple, actionable steps. From crafting your first email to making meaningful in-person connections, it’s a roadmap for dancers who want to stand out for the right reasons. Learn how to confidently introduce yourself, utilize your Studio 2 Stadium profile, and make lasting impressions throughout your recruitment journey.
One of the most common phrases dancers hear during the college recruitment process is: "You need to build relationships with coaches." It sounds simple enough but what does that actually look like? For many dancers, this part of the process feels like a big question mark.
The truth is, building relationships takes time, intention, and a little bit of courage. But it’s also one of the most valuable steps in the process. Coaches want to get to know you as a dancer and as a person. So let’s break down the how—starting with small steps that can make a big impact.
Start With an Introduction Email
Start with an email introducing yourself to the coach. Share who you are, what year you're in, what team or studio you dance with, and a few sentences about your interest in their program. If you have a highlight reel or dance video, link it. If you're planning to attend one of their clinics or will be visiting campus, mention that too.
Make it easy for coaches to get to know you. Instead of attaching a bunch of files or links, include your Studio 2 Stadium profile. It conveniently houses your videos, accomplishments, contact info, goals, upcoming events, and more—all in one place. Coaches can quickly see who you are, where you're at in your journey, and how to connect with you.
Sharing your profile not only makes life easier for the coach, but it also shows you’re organized and invested in your future—which already puts you a step ahead.
Ask to Connect Face to Face
Once the conversation has started, don’t be afraid to ask for a Zoom or in-person meeting. A short 15-minute conversation can go a long way in helping a coach get a feel for your personality and your goals.
Showing that you’re taking initiative also communicates that you’re serious, not just about getting on the team, but about joining their community.
If you're visiting campus or attending a clinic, this is a perfect time to request a quick in-person meeting. Even if they say no due to scheduling, they’ll appreciate the effort.
Take Advantage of Live Opportunities
If you’re attending a game, clinic, or campus event, use it as an opportunity to introduce yourself or follow up in person. Can you meet before or after a game to say hello? Can you speak with the coach after a clinic? These moments may feel small, but they’re memorable, especially when paired with thoughtful follow-up. You’re no longer just a name in their inbox, you’re a real person they’ve talked with.
Additionally, if the coach teaches at a local studio or is hosting a class near you, try to attend! It’s one of the best ways to get more face time in a more relaxed setting. The pressure of a clinic is gone, and they get to see your work ethic, personality, and skills up close. They will also most likely give you invaluable feedback that you can apply before next time you see them!
Keep the Coach in the Loop
Coaches appreciate updates—but there’s a fine line between proactive and pushy.
Think of it like checking in when there’s something new to share, not just to “stay on their mind.” Maybe you’ve recently been accepted to their University, placed at a national competition, or just confirmed your visit to campus. Those are all great reasons to send a quick update.
Be honest and transparent. If you're applying to multiple schools, it's okay to share that. Coaches want recruits who are mature, thoughtful, and upfront.
Connect with the Team Too
It’s easy to focus all your energy on the coach but don’t forget about the team.
If you get a chance to talk with current dancers, take it. Whether it's after a clinic or through social media, getting to know the team can give you insight and also give them insight into you.
Here’s the reality: coaches listen to their team. If you make a positive impression, dancers will share that. If you’re kind, confident, and clearly doing your research, it makes a difference.
Bonus tip: Learn about the coach and team in advance. How active are they in the community? What is the coaches background? Are they an alumni of the program? Do you have a personal connection to the University? These are all things you can mention when you meet them—and they show that you’re not just looking for any team. You’re looking for the right fit.
Be Intentional and Be Yourself
You don’t have to be the loudest voice in the room or the most technical dancer to make an impression. What coaches remember is someone who shows up with purpose, humility, and are authentically themselves.
Start small. Take the steps that feel doable. And over time, those small moments will build something meaningful.
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